The harmony way

You know what’s funny? From childhood, we’re trained like obedient little robots: “Don’t shout.” “Don’t talk back.” “Adjust, beta.” “Respect your elders even if they’re being absolutely unreasonable.” And what do we get applauded for? Silence. Sacrifice. Smiling through pain . Basically, for burying our truth so deep it forgets how to breathe. We’re told: "Don’t be aggressive — it’s bad, it makes people uncomfortable." And yeah, I agree. Aggression hurts people. But you know what hurts just as much, if not more? Submissiveness. Yeah. The silent killer. The one society never warns us about. * Submissiveness: The Culturally Approved Poison Let me break this down. Submissiveness is not peace. It’s self-abandonment dressed as politeness. It’s when: You say “It’s fine” even when it’s absolutely not fine. You nod when you want to scream “No!” You shrink yourself because your voice might make someone slightly uncomfortable. You apologize for simply existing with a spine. And let me ...

Have you ever wondered why it’s so hard to stay present, even when there’s nothing pressing going on? Why your mind keeps spinning in the background, chewing on thoughts that seem out of place, random, or unresolved? The answer, I believe, lies deep in how we grow up and more importantly, in how we store and process our life experiences. We Grow by Watching, Not by Understanding Most people are not taught how to live life—they simply observe it and absorb. As children, we watch our parents, teachers, peers, relatives. We mimic their behaviors, absorb their reactions, and internalize their beliefs—without any conscious filtering. We grow up not by understanding concepts deeply, but by inheriting them through perception. But here’s the issue: a concept perceived is not a concept resolved. What we take in from the world often remains half-formed, conflicting, or emotionally charged. These become unresolved ideas in our mental system. The Restlessness of the Mind (Manas) In yogic psycholog...